Disease of the dread before 9 kinds of marriage suit the remedy to the case

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May is a romantic season, it is a conjugal gold season, in seeming to connect air, can smell bright red happy event is angry. But have when all things all, differ wedding only when this faces an one foot, some people hesitated however. Resemble be in the film " desert bride " in, zhu Li inferior there is a horse when be on red carpet, seem at any time possible desert in face of a battle. Running away actually is not her original idea, the love that does not suspect you gave an issue, perhaps she has affected finish marriage scared disease...

Catch the person that fears marriage disease, can have a kind of scared feeling to prospective marriage, normally " symptom " it is be agitated, disposition compares draw well of urgent, love, some people will be tacit, do not wish to talk more, affect the job and life then. Before marriage, you after all Where is scared what? Let us come suit the remedy to the case, see action tear open action:

1, afraid " the graveyard that marriage is love "

Scared reason: By all account " the graveyard that marriage is love " , even if love is again good, entered marriage to do not have passion and sweetness, only endless trifling with trouble. If do not marry,bother a thing without so much, can enjoy the life to the top of one's bent, enjoy love moist...

Raise action: Walk out of disease of the dread before marriage, want to cast off the illusion to matrimony above all, do not put in exorbitant expectation and extravagant hopes, do not think sweetheart every kind is good, apple-pie, honeymoon is sweeter than honey really, should realise clearly, the birth of new family, mean the accentuation of the burden, mean in pairs to want to endeavor for the family responsibility, use up oneself to become the liability of the husband and wife.

Notice, of honeymoon is he bear hardships for the sweetheart readily sweetly be put into trouble and win come, it is commutative dedication, build jointly. Requirement lovers are about before marriage the promising sweetheart, little family that comes for end bears hardships readily the determination of be put into trouble, want good-tempered with the weakness that understands a sweetheart.

2, arranged marriage, understand prospective husband not quite

Scared reason: I and he is kin introduction understanding, because work in two cities, our acquaintance half an year has met 3 times only, family says our age is not small, urging us to be in this 51 get married. But I am right,he still does not understand, his habits and customs, his friend is encircled, even he is concentrated, had talked about a girlfriend so I am not clear, really helpless, think of these every time with respect to the head big, do not consider a form really this marriage...

Raise action: Both sides of male and female needs to add the understanding between wild phase each other ceaselessly, deepen feeling, this is preparation of the psychology before the most important marriage. If this preparation is inadequate, other preparation is again complete the perfect happiness that also won't ensure the life after marriage, even if be have everything that one expects to find of preparation of the material before marriage, also offset psychological loss hard, maintain husband and wife's true conjugal love. Suggest you still understand more consider to marry again, perhaps grow before marriage talk, as far as possible much mutual understanding, can eliminate the scared feeling of pair of future marriage probably.

3, concern and mother-in-law close not to come

Scared reason: Be about to live below same eave with grandpa, mother-in-law later, the habits and customs of each one is exposed without involuntary discharge of urine, mutual the attrition between is inevitable also. Is his pa Mom patient I? Can I have a good time in this home?

Raise action: Had done the spirit that gets used to new life to prepare. Each respects that should think of marriage have a youthful look is vivid before marriage can produce marked change, be only not only and love life to be together alive, still have bilateral parents, brother, sister and kin friend, want society and them to get along well. Before marriage and even inside the period of time after marriage, should create a condition to know and be familiar with the person that those should know, lest marriage hind feels insecurity is mixed because of the life that a lot of stranger enter him,cause error, hurt feeling of husband and wife thereby.

4, afraid housework work does not work

Scared reason: I am the only daughter in the home, as a child parents regards me as a beloved daughter, never had done chore, the hut that arranges oneself at most of what. But marry hind different, should learn to cook wash the dress, pull a floor board even, clear room, light is this a few appearance can be occupied go the breathing space of most ah... think those who live in parents all one's life to shelter really below shade, won't headache so household work.

Raise action: Every woman can become housewife. Regretful is, "Housewife " be in China at present is not a word that is worth pride, because of the housework that with it hematic arteries and veins is linked together, all the time since be despised even by society and negligence of male people place. We cannot invite man and ridicule in same, what experience housework personally is trival with pains, but household value and other any work are same, the place that is dignity of a housewife and value is, absolutely cannot gently brushstroke has been taken. Esteem housework not only it is new edition " woman rights and interests guarantees a standard " revolutionary achievement, also be one of basic premise of equality of men and women.

5, afraid extramarital affair, fear to divorce

Scared reason: Open newspaper, network now, those who blot out the sky and cover up the earth is off the rails, affair of what, even if after the sweetheart with old love marries, what also can appear 7 years is urticant, of urticant what of 10 years, make popular feeling confused. Especially the person with grown front courtyard of a lot of odd relatives by marriage, special after fearing to marry, divorce again, so flat do not marry, fear marriage brings harm again to oneself.

Raise action: This kind of fear is to originate social public opinion is right of matrimony negative " conduct propaganda " , and a few media analyse overmuch ground to all sorts of marriage problems " expose " marital the seamy side, make have " marry intent " the person feels a kind of aeriform pressure, the life after as a result produces pair of marriage " trend " beyond the mark worry and the fear that fail to marriage; Another reason is, one party is not very satisfactory to another some respect, or certain to the other side defect is in after getting married whether change, oneself can get used to Lv of impeach waiting for a heart.

The proposal sees the story of a few happy marriage more, understanding affair and off the rails the fraction case that is marriage only. Want to believe love, believe marriage, also should learn to warm up more at the same time the small way of love, want to be managed attentively only, the meeting with true marriage is very good!